Love, mommy

My role as mother will never disappear but my job as mother is officially over. I started thirty years ago giving birth to vanessa,my first of three daughters. This weekend will be the college graduation of my third daughter maddy,from Ithaca college. It only took thirty years to complete the job. That's one hell of a long project. olivia and vanessa have been watching the old home videos from their early life. Their comments are.. You were so patient... That looks so chaotic... You were a magical mom... And it all is making sense now! It's fascinating to hear their take on things. These are women whose opinions I respect, but back then they couldn't comment because they were still forming. We were all in it together and now we are out of that phase and in another together.  I like the new phase. . My three daughters and I have worked out a new way of being together.... Apart. Vanessa, Olivia, Maddy ... I loved you so hard and raised you so well. It's your turn now! Love mommy

Our little lives

My favorite woman that I don't know woke me up this morning. She said what we do individually is not so important. What is important is what we do collectively. She opened up City of Joy in the Congo as a safe haven for girls. I wept. That's how a life matters. Way to go Eve, so aptly named, for continuing to speak, guide mentor all of us.

Psst I have a secret

It was serious business all day Friday into the wee hours of Saturday morning. That was the day that Oliver was born. He is my grandson which means that I gave birth to his mother. I am already in love with Oliver but he doesn't know it yet. I can't wait to tell him again. I tried the first day but he slept through it. Then I tried to tell him the second day but he was interested in eating not about love. The third day I couldn't see him, but if I had I would have tried again. Tomorrow is the fourth day, maybe that will be our lucky day. I will tell him and he will hear me. If not, no worries because guess what? I will tell him everyday for the rest of my life. Oliver I love you.

High above the clouds